The pain of conviction that comes through the godly rebuke of a friend who speaks truth in love is a real gift (Proverbs 27:6). But what if you’re the one sinned against, and you’re hurt because of unkind words, betrayal, or manipulation by a person you consider a friend? How do you address it with your friend, and how do you move past the pain and toward reconciliation
In the midst of your hurt, trust that God is working in your relationship to grow you both in the grace and knowledge of Christ: “Trust in him at all times, O people” (Psalm 62:8).
It is one’s glory (or beauty) to overlook an offense (Proverbs 19:11). This requires prudence, patience, maturity, and wisdom. Overlooking an offense adorns the gospel and is a loving response that demonstrates we are indeed Christ’s disciples (John 13:35).
In the Disney film Frozen, Elsa abandoned caution and prudence, giving up her good-girl persona to unleash her cold fury on the town of Arendelle. Her actions negatively affected everyone and everything around her. In our flesh, we’re tempted to unleash our pent-up, frozen fury on our friend rather than trust our Lord. Wisdom does not “let it go” like an ice queen. Instead, it dies to self, showing constraint and turning the hurt over to Jesus, who most identifies with us in our pain and who meets us in our times of need.
You would only walk in love to the extent to which you live the life of the scriptures you have come to appreciate in Christ in Jesus.
Take for instance if you have not been overwhelmed with scriptures so as to know that Christ did it all to the extent of dying for us on the cross of calvary you may not appreciate the extent to which we should forgive.Christ says we should forgive others just exactly as he did for us. You can never know the extent to which you would go to forgive some wrongs against you unless you appreciate through the lens of scripture the extent to which Jesus did.
It's a matter of choice, choose to forgive your offender and you would not just heal a broken heart but this would have ripple effect on other people's lives. Do not event try to harbor grudge in your heart because it would lead to greater sins and would amount to your health deteriorating.